What advice would you give to your younger self 5 years ago? And one for ten years ago?

“To not be afraid to dream big. That the only one that can hold you back is yourself.”

5 Year Ago Self: Seek self-reliance; don’t use dependence on others as a crutch. Take responsibility for where you are in your life and accept, filter and strive to solve the problems that affect you and are within your control. Find out your “why?” and pursue it through a “how?” that feeds your greatest passion not your will for more money.

10 Year Ago Self: Use the lessons you learned through your most passionate extra curricular activities and apply those lessons of forward thinking, innovation, hard work and consistency to what impacts your future the most. Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo or others’ expectations of you. Set yourself up for fulfillment, not immediate gratification.

5 years ago? Study hard, work hard. Don’t waste your potential. Don’t dismiss opportunities because they don’t seem to align with your vision. 10 Years ago? Let myself know that I had depression and its something that can be fought, and to not let it consume you. I would have encouraged myself to work with technology more, even learn coding earlier.

5 yrs ago: 1. Drink coconut water. 2. Your hair is beautiful. 3. You are enough. 4. Capoeira will save your life. Train! 5. Your own pace, is the right pace.

10 years ago: 1. Work on being consistent. 2. Ask for help when you need it. 3. Try new things. 4. Let go of fear of your potential. 5. Vulnerability is ok, beautiful even.

5 Years ago was when Jack and Cat were born…. I would tell myself that everyone has their own “season” in life and it is okay to have kids early. Having kids doesn’t mean that I’m missing out in life, it means I get to figure out my priorities earlier in life. Don’t worry about what other people are doing with their life and know that my time will come. Just because someone started their career earlier, doesn’t mean they will succeed earlier. Stop comparing your life to others… you cannot compare luck and timing. Feeling upset and frustrated is not a sign of weakness… recognizing those feelings and talking about it is a sign of growth in personal development. You don’t need a traditional 9-5 job, there are so many ways to bring home income that is flexible for moms.

10 Years Ago I was in high school… Stop revolving your life around that boy! Be comfortable in your own skin and live your life. Work smart, not hard in school.

I would say “feel not sure after the actuarial interviews? That’s your heart is telling you this is not who you are! Honor your intuition and get the core of who you are, what makes you happy! What you do is a big part of your life, so spread your positive energy in things make you feel alive!” Also, find a coach from AC program lol

5 and 10 years ago I would definitely tell myself not to spend so much money on material things (you don’t need all that stuff!) and invest way more of it. Also, don’t care about what other people think – don’t let their opinions dictate your actions. Just follow your heart and what pulls at you.

My boyfriend said 5 years ago, his advice would also be save more money so u can pursue the things u really want and not be tied to your income.

10 years ago I would also advise myself to love myself more – work on my self love and respect myself more.

But really I would want my younger self to know it’s all going to be ok. You are exactly where u need to be and going thru what u need to be, to get to where you are going 🙂 so don’t sweat it so much and have fun!

I would’ve told myself to stay focused and that learning and development wasn’t over.
10 years ago I would say to work hard in school and focus on yourself and don’t put your BF first.
5 years ago: Don’t be afraid to walk into new challenges. If anything, you’ll have a larger set of experiences. 10 years ago: Be yourself. Aim to do things that speaks to your strengths, weaknesses and your interests.
I wrote..
10 years ago.
1. Read more non-fiction books such as How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
2. Read more financial related books such as Rich dad poor dad.
3. Learn how to say no
4. Stop caring so much about what other people think. Stop being a people pleaser.
5. Choose a major that you like! such as Psychology. Which is very useful for sales.
5 years ago
1. Go directly into a software sales position right away
2. Make a goal to read 36 books a year.
3. Focus on your routines, habits, listen to podcasts from Lewis Howes and Tim Ferriss.
4. Read all of the Tony Robbins books and internalize them.
5. Do not judge people ever.
These are some of the ones people told me today.
What about for you?

Dare to be

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can –

At all times, Dare to be!”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

I know sometimes life is hard. You didn’t get the job/opportunity you wanted. You didn’t make the Varsity or you just broke up after a long term relationship…

Every day there is a new slate and new chance to create something great. You have to get out of your own way. Sometimes I know you just don’t feel like getting up out of bed. This is why I recommend writing down your 25 goals(What I call an achievement list) for tomorrow list so that you can sleep peacefully and be excited for the day ahead of you!

What are some of the things you are procrastinating about today?

Some of my mine involving doing homework or feeling super sore after CrossFit and not wanting to get up from my calves hurt… We are all human but we are all capable of achieving so much in our limited time on Earth so why work a job that you hate? If you need help finding your true passion. Reach out to me. I would be more than happy to help unleash your true greatness.

This story of Davidson Hang (part 1)

I was born in Camden, NJ which was ranked one of the worst cities in America. Luckily, We moved out of there when I was younger into Cherry Hill which was a much nicer city. I grew up with modest means, living off on food stamps and welfare checks. My family still uses food stamps well my mother’s side of the family still does. No shame in that. I know people are embarrassed about admitting it but I am not anymore.

I am writing and showing my vulnerability hoping to inspire others to be more positive and to look at the bright side of things. It pains me to think that my father has left me and my younger two siblings when I was a freshman in high school. At the ripe age of 15, I was exposed to a lot. My parents constantly arguing and my father even went to jail and his brothers and sisters had to bail him out.

Growing up was tough, we moved around a lot. I did not have a lot of stability in my life which could explain why throughout the beginning stages of my life. There was a lot of instability in my relationships. I have moved around to 15 different places or more but who’s counting.

When I moved to California around Kindergarten, I didn’t have a close group of friends. I had a couple of friends but my parents were striving to be able to pay rent on time living paycheck to paycheck. My dad is a salesman and it is ironic that I told myself I would never want to be like my father after he just left us without telling us at the drop of a dime. My parents were never really officially married, they just lived together. It is kind of funny how my dad’s side of the family thinks he is a great guy and still til this day defends his honor. It is funny how unconditional love can really warp your perspective. But I am not mad at them, I do understand everything is entitled to their opinions.

I think it is important to try to be as objective as possible. Which is why I try to not be judgemental of others as of late and more importantly judge myself.

I was diagnosed with ADHD and although many Asians do not really believe it is a thing. It is a real thing, I struggle to sit still in the seat even when I get a haircut til this day I can barely sit still. In classrooms, I have to go to the bathroom or go get water from the water foundation every 20 minutes or less. I still have never sat through an entire lecture or class session without having to get outside for a “break”.

I do notice a lot of differences when taking Adderall. When I finally got life insurance, because the school gave us some life insurance for being a student I actually started doing well in school for about a semester. Once, I hit 21, they were forced to not give me life insurance anymore so I went back to my poor academic ways.

Although, I did take honor classes and were with really smart students. IB classes. Which is similar to AP if you guys do not know what it is. We were a magnet school, so I surrounded by people and was always or felt like one of the dumbest in my classes. I moved back to Cherry Hill, NJ in 5th grade and was actually voted most reserved in the yearbook by my classmates. It is funny to think that knowing myself now and how much of an open book I am.

I was extremely socially awkward and virtually spent my whole life playing video games and playing beanie babies with my sisters because I didn’t have any friends.

I went to middle school and somewhere I think halfway along 7th grade I decided to go outside my comfort zone and put myself out there. There I made a lot of “friends”, well I would say it was more acquaintances because I had a lot of friends but not necessarily a group of people that I consistently hung out with.

I found myself wanting to talk to everyone but nothing of real substance but we are all in middle school right? Who talks about philosophical things and the meaning of life at that young of an age?

Oh yeah, try adding an extreme case of asthma to the big list of problems I have growing up. I had an inhaler and everything. I actually was one of the slowest milers in elementary, I think I was last? I am not sure, but it wouldn’t surprise me.

I do notice I always have a ton of energy though, like with most kids with ADHD we all have a ton of energy so I started running more often. Slowly my asthma went away. I started doing cross country and track in 8th grade. I did develop a passion for having fun and just running and my mind was always racing was finally able to sleep at night just from being tired from track practice and cross country practices. Most nights I could not sleep and averaged about 5 hours of sleep every day. I still average 5 to 6 hours of sleep a night but I fall asleep in less than 5 seconds most nights. I used to just lie in bed for over an hour every day. It was really bad.

High school was totally different from the rest of my childhood. Now that we didn’t move every 6 months, I started having “friends”. I was super involved in school and joined the Asian Culture Club, spring track, winter track, bowling, cross country, newspaper- lions roar, and did relay for life. The list goes on, I started feeling more confident, more self-aware that I have the talents to become more likable and to make friends and just be more the true me. Still, I never had a steady group of friends, I had a ton of friends to hang out with not really a lot that I hung out for more than a couple of years.

College was an entirely different story as well, I joined Pi Delta Psi and met so many cool role models and alumnus and brothers who shared a common theme of always wanting to be better and were breaking Asian stereotypes. They were successful, rich, hard working, they were athletic. I wanted to be just like them, so I started lifting weights with them. I idolized the brothers and thought everything they did was amazing. Accomplishing so much being able to host events, starting their own organizations like Rutgers Cantonese Club and being on the board of all of the Asian clubs such as Chinese Student Organization and Taiwanese American Students Association.

Anyways, I started making a ton of new contacts road tripping everywhere. We went to Binghamton University, University of Riverside, University of Florida, University of Central Florida, Stony Brook, Cornell, Columbia, NYU, University of Maryland – College Park, basically everywhere where there was a chapter. This is the first time I actually had a close group of friends that I felt at peace with. But still, while being social chair and having to pay for college myself without any help from my parents.

I felt like life was unfair, why did all of these things happen to me? I was always comparing myself to others, my grades were horrible, how come everyone else had help with parents giving them money to be able to help them pay for tuition. Life was so unfair for me. I then realized it was my biggest advantage because I had so much more work experience than everyone else. My work ethic is so much stronger because I had to work 20-40 hours a week on the weekends and at night after school work to pay for my own expenses. It was a blessing in disguise.

Now, that I am older. I realized that everything does happen for a reason.  I am extremely blessed and fortunate to have a loving girlfriend who is faithful and loyal.  My relationships are getting better, I am learning to accept my family. It is not my mom’s fault she left as a refugee to escape Vietnam. She is so brave to have witnessed people dying in front of her hands during the war. She is still traumatized by this but has recently let me know about these moments which I am very grateful for her sharing.

It is not her fault that she is not educated and had no opportunity to go to college and did not even graduate from high school. It is not my father’s fault that he also did not have the opportunity to go to college and graduate from high school. Maybe my father leaving us had nothing to do with us but maybe it was a blessing to be able to afford me the foundation for my work ethic. Once you sell door to door Verizon Fios and selling Cutco knives, I truly believe you can do anything. Being in sales, you cannot blame anyone else but yourself. I am truly blessed to work for a huge company that cares about their employees with endless opportunities.

I am excited to be launching my own company called NOVA (Network of Visionary Asians) with 4 other business partners in April to make a huge difference and be able to inspire others and connect others like I continuously do on a daily basis. I have officially launched my life coaching business called Kaizen coaching to be able to help others find the greatness in oneself. It is funny how others hinted and saw the greatness in me but I never saw it myself. I still to this day do not think I am good at anything. I do think I have a natural tendency to be able to be curious and love to ask a billion questions which drives my ability to grow and learn on a daily basis. I love blogging and being vulnerable because I think we are all the same. I used to think wow, life is so unfair. Why does everyone have it better than I do, whereas now I reframe my mindset and perspective and stop comparing myself to everything else but start comparing myself to myself weeks ago, months ago, years ago. If I am not growing and putting myself out there then I will never be able to progress as a professional.

I thank you for reading this and spending the time getting to know me. I created my own mission statement where I will live my life by these words.

I, Davidson Hang provide value by being an excellent confidante and inspire motivation through myself by increasing everyone’s power base. I strive to never give up in the endeavors I am passionate about and I am the best example of resilience, confidence, and ethical leadership who always looks to make an insightful difference.  

Reach out to me if you are having a bad day or you just need someone to vent to. I promise, things will get better if you will just believe in yourself and stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

My phone number is 856 278 6168 if you want to text me or davidsonh87@gmail.com if you want to shoot me an email.

NPR’s: How I built this

My favorite episodes of How I Bult this

http://www.npr.org/podcasts/510313/how-i-built-this

  1. Atari and Chucke E. Cheese’s: Nolan Bushnell: 
  2. Airbnb: Joe Gebbia
  3. Zappos: Tony Hsieh
  4. Instagram: Kevin Systrom- really interesting to see how quickly it blew up and how it all started.
  1. Kate Spade: Kate & Andy Spade- Still very humble and down to earth.
  2. Gordon Segal: Crate & Barrel
  3. Honest Tea: Seth Goldman- Really interesting how he made semi sweet tea while all of the other teas were incredibly sweet.
  4. Serial Entrepreneur: Mark Cuban
  5. Samuel Adams: Jim Koch – He started the craft beer movement in America and made it cool again.
  6. John Zimmer- Lyft
  7. Music Mogul: L.A. Reid- I didn’t know anything about the music industry but it was insightful listening to this.
  8. Southwest Airlines: Herb Kelleher- How he disruptive the airline industry offering cheaper flights.
  9. Spanx- Sara Blakely- Always such an inspiring story that never gets old even the 3rd time hearing his story. The hustle and drive within her is so inspirational
  10. Clif Bar: Gary Erickson
  11. Angie’s List: Angie Hicks- What a brillant and smart creator.
  12. Warby Parker: Dave Gilboa & Neil Blumenthal – Really smart and amazing guys. Never gets old their story as well.

15. Virgin: Richard Branson – I didn’t know Virgin had a cola brand. Haha.

Daily journal entries

What do you guys typically write about?

I find myself typically recording my diet, my workouts, how I feel afterwards.

My goals and my achievement/ success list/ things to do.

Daily work related goals and any interesting experiences or regarding something new I learned from a mentor/ conference/seminar.

Nootropics

What are everyone’s thoughts on them?

From my experience, I am currently trying out.

  1. L-Theanine 200mg
  2. DMAE
  3. Onnit Shroom- Clean ATP by Onnit Labs
  4. Neovicta’s- Clarity stack
  5. BioScience Nutrition USA’s Brain Boost Nootropics (41 vitamins and DMAE)
  6. Zhou Nutrition’s -Neuro-Peak – DMAE, Rhodiola Rosea Extract, Bacopa Monnieri
  7. Alphabrain- Onnit labs

Have any of you tried any Nootropics what about your thoughts?

Blogging and/or journal/writing a book

I am just putting it out there so that I am committed to doing it.

I am going to write a book on networking/ motivation and I will write about sales tips after interviewing the top 5% of sales professionals.

I think it will be interesting. I will record them and make a podcast as well because I think there is so many valuable content out there and that sales is a professional that can apply to pretty much everyone and everything.

Stay tuned…

My thoughts on networking and tips/advice

Networking. Is it a dirty word?

I have found that throughout my time networking for the past 7 years of my life. I have realized that people need to think long term. Many of us do not see the value of networking or people think “it is a lot of work”.

Well it depends on what your values are and what your goals are?

For me, the reason why I love networking so much and that you get to meet so many interesting people in the world and you get to learn something new every time.

After listening to some tedtalks, I will have to try the skipping the small talk and going straight into a question that people would not expect.

For instance, asking them what he or she wanted to be when he or she was a young kid?

I do think it is extremely hard to build a relationship with someone after talking to them for only 5 minutes. I do think follow ups and making a conscious effort is extremely important especially to people who you want to surround yourself with.

What are your thoughts on networking?

I am excited to start my own company called NOVA- Network of Visionary Asians soon. We will be having our launching party soon in April. Stay tuned =) It is going to be big!

25 favorite quotes

These are mine.

  1. “Two roads diverged in a wood and I  took the one less traveled by, and that made all the difference.” —Robert Frost

2. “The number one reason people fail in life is because they listen to their friends, family, and neighbors.” —Napoleon Hill

3.”The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.” —Denis Waitley

4. “You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.” —Michael Jordan

5. “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” —Jim Ryun

6. “A man can be as great as he wants to be. If you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the dedication, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile, it can be done.” —Vince Lombardi

7.”Occasionally in life there are those moments of unutterable fulfillment which cannot be completely explained by those symbols called words. Their meanings can only be articulated by the inaudible language of the heart.“-Martin Luther King, Jr.

8.”Working hard is important. But there is something that matters even more: believing in yourself.“-Harry Potter (J.K. Rowling)

9.”Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.-John R. Wooden

10.”Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.-Tom Robbins

11.”A good teacher can inspire hope, ignite the imagination, and instill a love of learning.“-Brad Henry

12. “The Pessimist Sees Difficulty In Every Opportunity. The Optimist Sees The Opportunity In Every Difficulty.” -Winston Churchill

13. “People Who Are Crazy Enough To Think They Can Change The World, Are The Ones Who Do.”- Rob Siltanen

14. “Whether You Think You Can Or Think You Can’t, You’re Right.”- Henry Ford

15.“You Are Never Too Old To Set Another Goal Or To Dream A New Dream.”- C.S. Lewis

16.“Reading Is To The Mind, As Exercise Is To The Body.”- Brian Tracy

17. “The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one’s destiny to do, and then do it.” —Henry Ford

18.”If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” —Albert Einstein

19. “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” —Maya Angelou

20. “The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” —Bruce Lee

21.  “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” —Dale Carnegie

22. “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” —Mark Twain

23. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing–that’s why we recommend it daily.” –Zig Ziglar

24. “I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.” —Thomas Jefferson

25.”Do one thing every day that scares you.” —Anonymous

Favorite restaurants/ dessert places in NYC

  1. Grace street -17 W 32nd St

2. Tsurutontan Udon Noodle Brasserie -21 E 16th St

3. Angel’s Share- (speakeasy) – 8 Stuyvesant St

4. Taiyaki NYC- 119 Baxter St

5. Jing Fong- (Dim sum) – 20 Elizabeth St

6.  Kobeque (ktown) -11 W 32nd St

7.  L & B Spumoni Gardens -2725 86th St Brooklyn, NY 11223

8. Turntable Chicken Jazz -314 5th Ave

9. Noodle Village- 13 Mott St

10. Totto Ramen- 366 W 52nd St

11. Fiore’s Pizza- 165 Bleecker St

12. Chinatown Ice Cream Factory -65 Bayard St

13. Levain Bakery