How a kid with severe asthma toughed it out and is now into Spartan races and other crazy things…

Growing up I was always last of my class at the mile. I remember in 5th grade I was literally the last kid to finish. It was so embarrassing and I really thought I would never been able to do anything about it.

I used an inhaler. Picture a really short Asian kid with thick glasses and a bowl haircut and was voted most reserved of my class in the yearbook.

In middle school I was still shy and only until around 7th grade I started opening up and trying new things.

I started doing cross country in 8th grade. I always had a lot of energy because of my diagnosed ADHD. They said when your parents smoke cigarettes you have a much higher chance of developing ADHD compared to kids that do not have parents that smoke.

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Anyways, I was always pretty bad at track and cross country. I mean compared to normal people I was good. I started placing near the top of my gym class in the mile but still haven’t broken a 6-minute mile more than once.

I was pretty proud of myself, yay I beat a bunch of people that don’t run every day for 5-7 miles. People always thought us Cross Country people were crazy like why would you run for fun? But I always thought it was a meditative way to just have a good time with friends and didn’t think too much of it.

I remember the football players always made fun of us because most cross country people were skinny and they were always intimidating.

My winter track, spring track, and cross country was nothing specular..I made a lot friends but I was never good enough to make it very far like to states or sectionals or anything.

I definitely enjoyed every minute of it. Bonding, making friends and traveling to different schools/states to compete. I distinctly remember going to Winslow whose track team was pretty much 80% black and 20% Spanish. They were rooting for me and called me Jin. (He is an Asian rapper). That was cool, because I always felt like minorities always supported me and we all supported each other.

When I was in college, I started being more active doing more weight lifting and was exposed to Asians who were actually really athletic and loved to work out a lot. It introduced me to a whole new world. It was awesome to see Pi Delta Psi break through stereotypes and brothers that played varsity football in high school and received scholarships in sports. That was something truly amazing to me.

Endurance sports were my thing, I ended up doing a half marathon without training for it. It really pushed my mental limits because the furthest I had run before that ever was probably 7 or 8 miles so 13.1 miles was very painful or at least the recovery aspect of it. I ended up doing a century which is 100+ miles bike race with a really cheap Walmart bike. That was one of my proudest achievements because I still remember being the last kid in school at the mile. I will probably do more centuries in the future because I actually really like biking and found it relaxing and calming.

I got into Spartan races when it was really popular and I will never forget the hardest race of my life. In Vermont Mt. Killington, it was so crazy doing a 12-hour obstacle race. It was the toughest and most mentally draining event I had ever done in my life. But also one of the most fun and I would love to do it again if other people are interested in doing it with me. I was much lighter back then so I would be able to do most of the obstacles now being almost 15 lbs of muscle heavily.

I have recently started on my CrossFit journey. It’s only been a little been a little over 5 months but I love it and I think I have found my calling. This is the first time where I just feel such accomplishment and something that really challenges and can match my energy level.

People always say I have the most energy they have ever seen in a person. For someone who averages less than 6 hours of sleep a day I would say that is probably true. I still haven’t met many people who can match my energy level in my life.

I am excited to do the JP Morgan corporate challenge with my company at Experian and I am excited to run the Rutgers Half Marathon coming up in less than 10 days. I still haven’t trained for it but I am excited to push my mental capacity to see how well I can do. My strategy is usually hustle and push the last 5 miles really strong.

Anyone looking to try something new physically feel free to reach out to me. I would love to hear about your journey. I am excited because for the first time in my life I do not view myself as a weak Asian male. I find a lot of confidence in my ability to grow getting stronger physically and mentally every day in CrossFit and push my boundaries at one of the most hard core crossfit gyms in the nation at Solace NY.

Let me know if you guy want to come for a trial day. I would love to have more of my friends come join me on this amazing journey.

As I reflect on the days where I was so weak and self-conscious of never being able to gain weight. I have no trouble gaining weight now in a good way but I love it because I know it’s giving me the confidence I need to succeed in business and this amazing journey called life.

 

 

Legacy, what does it mean to you?

Your legacy what does that mean to you?

Why are put on Earth for? Have you found your calling? What gives you the motivation to go on and work 40+ hours a week.

What gives your life meaning?

The topic of death scares a lot of people. I was listening to a ted talk about how someone went straight to serious topics and skipped all of the small talk.

It was interesting because immediately she brought some topics that made people uncomfortable. I know a lot of you reading this are probably thinking man… it is way too early to reading about something so serious but I truly think that if you don’t think of death as a taboo topic then there could be a lot of benefits to come from this.

If you plan for the future and actually save up money and do all of your wills, deeds, etc then you do not have to burden everything else with the funeral costs etc.

But the real purpose of this blog post is really just to evaluate and think is everything I am doing right now what I want to leave for my future, my kids, my family etc.?

I think many of us in life are going about life really automatic just doing things because we have to and not because we actually want to.

I know so many people that dread going to work every day and especially dread Mondays. I actually love Mondays because I love going to work and being able to learn something new or challenging myself to go outside my comfort zone.

Yes, it is much more comfortable watching tv or eating snacks. Or just hanging out with friends talking about how great the good ole days were back in college.

I am not saying there is anything bad about hanging out with your friends or watching TV but really if you evaluate your life and if you were to pass away tomorrow. Would you be happy with the life you lived so far?

Would you want to impact more people? Do things that you were afraid to do but never got the “chance” to?

We live in a world of opportunities. We live in America, there are stories about people becoming millionaires every day or creating their own company or people quitting corporate America to do something that gives them meaning. I am not saying you have to do something dramatic and quit your job but I would dig deeper and think about what you are doing on your weekends and what gives you a sense of purpose.

Just food for thought…

I am blessed to be giving the opportunity to hear people stories every day when networking. I really find it fascinating that we are all the same but yet people think so differently.

I find myself being curious about life and everything. About how people think about what makes people tick.

It is truly interesting to see how some of us grew up so similarly but inspire to do different things, challenges, and goals.

I am excited to launch my own company to empower and help Asian Americans connect to others and help people find mentorship opportunities. Reach out to me if you want to learn more or be a part of a something great! We are looking for Nova associates.

But to answer my original question. If I were to die tomorrow. I would be fully fulfilled with the life I have lived so far. I lived my life with no regrets. Of course, I have made some mistakes. We all have but I know that I’ve always worked hard and gave it my all/ I was always true to myself and was not afraid to let my true colors show.

I have connected so many people and helped so many people negotiate a higher salary or helped people take the plunge and apply for a new opportunity when they were unsure of themselves.

I love the type of work that I do now. When I found out there was a name for this type of role I jumped at the opportunity to make a difference and to help people see something in themselves that nobody else might have seen.

Sure, life is never perfect but I truly think everything happens for a reason. It is just a matter of reframing your mindset to look at every obstacle as an opportunity.

My life is far from perfect but at least I know I am not afraid to try something new or afraid to approach someone to ask for help.

I am blessed to have everyone here be so supportive of me and my story. I hope to impact millions of people with one day.  The start is here right now! Why wait until someone gives you permission to do something?

Not too long ago… I was I always asking others what should I do or what do you think I am good at?

I should proud of myself for taking risks and being able to influence others for positive change. Yeah, it might be uncomfortable to do things that require you getting outside your comfort zone.

My troubled background has been a blessing in disguise to give me a different perspective and to be able to experience such spectrums of growing up poor in Camden, NJ to living in NYC – the greatest city in the world in the land of opportunity.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this.

I really hope it sparks some interest in digging deeper and designing a life that you love. Shoot me a text sometime if you want to catch up or just talk anything that you are interested in pursuing.

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The Start-Up of You: Reid Hoffman

Chapter 2: These were my main takeaways from this book. This was actually one of my top 10 books for sure because it had really good actionable items and valuable insights/advice/tips.

These were my main takeaways from this book. This was actually one of my top 10 books for sure because it had really good actionable items and valuable insights/advice/tips.

  1. Identify three people who are striving toward aspirations similar to your own. Use them as benchmarks. How did they get to where they are?
  2. Write down your key assets in the context of a market reality.

Ex: For me, I know I am great at networking and connecting people to other people whom they want to meet. I should leverage that in order to build good karma amongst my network.

In the next month: Review your calendar, journals, and old emails and get a sense for how you spent your last six Saturdays. What do you do when you have nothing urgent to do? How you spend your free time may reveal your true interests and aspirations; compare them to what you say your aspirations are.

  • Think about how you are currently adding value at work. If you stopped going to the office suddenly, what would not get done? Think about the things people frequently compliment you on- those may be your strengths.

Network Intelligence: Meet with three trusted connections and ask them what they see as your greatest strengths. If they had come to you for help or advice on one topic, what would it be?

For me, it is always resume or job related/salary negotiations advice.

Chapter 3: Prioritize learning – Learning does not stop when you graduate from college or even graduate school.

Learn by doing… You can read all you want but the best way to learn is by doing.

  • Schedule a coffee meeting with someone who used to work in your professional niche who pivoted to a new a career plan. How did he or she make the shift? Why? Was it a good move? What were signs that the time was right?
  • Make a plan to develop more transferable skills by simply pledging to sign up for a course or conference or by pledging to spend one hour each self-learning.
  • Reserve a personal domain name. (yourname.com)
  • Reach out to five people who work in adjacent niches and ask them to coffee. Keep up these relationships over time so you an access diverse information.

Chapter 4 notes:

  • Build genuine relationships. The one that throws out business cards to every person without actually getting to them know is not going to make it far. It is much better to have valuable relationships rather than quantity.
  • Be a bridge and a connector. It will serve you in the long run.
  • Look at your calendar for the six past months and identify the five people you spend the most time with- are you happy with the influence those five people are having on you?
  • Make two useful introductions to your contacts who don’t know each other.
  • Keep in touch with your ten most valuable connections regularly without having to ask them for a favor or anything.
  • Make an interesting people fund used for coffee and networking purposes. This will serve you well.

Chapter 5 notes:

Be like Benjamin Franklin and create your own mastermind group.

Hustle, hustle, hustle. Hustling will never be underrated. There is almost no better strategy in business other than hustling.

  • Ask the most curious person you know out to lunch and try to get infected by their sense of awe.
  • Take a coworker in a different department out for lunch or attend a seminar in a different but related field.
  • Opportunities are attached to people. Identify the people in your network who always seem to have their hands in interesting pots. Try to understand what makes them hubs of opportunity and resolve to meet more people with those characteristics.

Chapter 6 notes:

Always have a backup plan because you really don’t know. Just because you work for a huge corporate company, environments and markets are unpredictable you should always have a backup plan even if you work for a government agency.

Chapter 7 notes:

  • Ask good questions.
  • Leverage domain experts
  • Post interesting questions to your Linkedin network, Twitter and Facebook.
  • Schedule three lunch dates to one with a person a few rungs ahead of you in your industry; one with a person with an old friend you haven’t seen in awhile; and one with a person from an adjacent industry whose career you admire.
  • Become a go-to person for other people in your network on certain topics. Make known to your connections your interests and skill by writing blog posts and emails, or set up discussion groups.

1000 books journey

My goal is to finish 1000 books. I will post updates and takeaways from these books.

Let me know what you all think.

Open to a book sharing club or any suggestions for must needs that you think would change my life.

My favorites are highlighted in bold.

  1. Tony Hsieh- Delivering Happiness: A path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose
  2. Pre:The Story of American’s Greatest Running Legend, Steve Prefontaine- Tom Jordan
  3. The Start- Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career- Reid Hoffman
  4. Rework- Jason Fried (Recommended by Mark Cuban)
  5. Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow- Yuval Noah Harari
  6. Idea Man: A memoir by the Cofounder of Microsoft -Paul Allen
  7. Ray Kroc- Grinding it Out: The Making of McDonald’s
  8. Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills. You Need to Live an Authentic Life- Susan Campbell, Ph.D.
  9. Michael Lewis- Boomerang: Travels in the New Third World
  10. Phil Knight- Shoe Dog: A Memoir by the creator of Nike
  11. The Challenger Sale: Taking Control of the Customer Conversation- Matthew Dixon
  12. Strategic Management and Business Policy: Globalization, Innovation and Sustainability- Thomas Wheelan
  13. Operations Management: Processes and Supply Chains- Lee J. Krajewski
  14. The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living- Ryan Holiday
  15. Peter Thiel- Zero To One: Notes on Startups, or How to Build the Future
  16. Adam M. Grant- Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success
  17. Ego Is the Enemy- Ryan Holiday
  18. The First Tycoon: The Epic Life of Cornelius Vanderbilt- T.J. Stiles
  19. Transform Your Life: 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity- Chris Lee
  20. Tony Robbins: Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbook
  21. The Intelligent Investor. The Definitive Book on Value Investing. A Book of Practical Counsel- Benjamin Graham – recommended by Warren Buffet
  22. Titan: The Life of John. D. Rockefeller- Ron Chernon
  23. Tesla: Inventor of the Electrical Age- Bernand W. Carlson- Recommended by Elon Musk
  24. Benjamin Franklin: An American Life- Walter Isaacson – Top 5 books of all time. (Also recommended by Elon Musk)
  25. Breakpoint: Why the Web will implode, Search will be Obsolete, and Everything Else you Need to Know about Technology is in your Brain- Jeff Stibel
  26. Michael Lewis- The Undoing Project: A Friendship That Changed Our Minds.
  27. Flash Boys: A Wall Street Revolt- Michael Lewis
  28. The New New Thing: A Silicon Valley Story- Michael Lewis
  29. The Money Culture; Michael Lewis
  30. Grant Cardone- Be Obsessed or Be Average (sales related)
  31. Tony Robbins- Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement
  32. Tony Robbins- Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
  33. Tony Robbins- MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom. (Highly recommended for everyone. Top 5 books)
  34. Essentials of Business Statistics- Bruce Bowerman
  35. Management Information Systems: Managing the Digital Firm- Kenneth Laudon
  36. Introduction to Counseling: An Art and Science Perspective- Michael Nystul
  37. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us:Daniel Pink
  38. Organizational Behavior- Steven McShane
  39. Strategic Marketing- David Cravens
  40. Managing Human Resources- Susan E. Jackson
  41. Management- Stephen. P. Robbins
  42.  The Legal Environment of Business: Text and Cases: Ethical,  Regulatory, Global and Corporate Issues- Frank B. Cross
  43. Career Anchors: The Changing Nature of Careers Self Assessment- Egdar H. Schein
  44. Business and Society: Ethics and Stakeholder Management- Archie B. Carroll
  45. Working with Emotional Intelligence- Daniel Goleman
  46. Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for getting out of your own way. Rick Carson
  47. The E-Myth Revisited: Why most small businesses don’t work and what to do about it. Michael E Gerber
  48. Get Cleints Now! (TM): A 28- day marketing program for professionals, consultants, and coaches
  49. Selling the Invisible: A Field guide to modern marketing
  50. Creating competitive advantage: give customers a reason to choose you over your competitors- Jaynie. L. Smith
  51. Coach anyone about anything: How to help people succeed in business and life: Germaine Porche
  52. Creating Sales Velocity- Matthew Ferry
  53. The Rosie Project: A novel- Graeme Simsion
  54. The Rosie Effect- A novel- Graeme Simsion

What are your thoughts on any of these books that you have read or the main takeaways?

I am always open to suggestions for books that you think I would like. Thanks all!

 

What advice would you give to your younger self 5 years ago? And one for ten years ago?

“To not be afraid to dream big. That the only one that can hold you back is yourself.”

5 Year Ago Self: Seek self-reliance; don’t use dependence on others as a crutch. Take responsibility for where you are in your life and accept, filter and strive to solve the problems that affect you and are within your control. Find out your “why?” and pursue it through a “how?” that feeds your greatest passion not your will for more money.

10 Year Ago Self: Use the lessons you learned through your most passionate extra curricular activities and apply those lessons of forward thinking, innovation, hard work and consistency to what impacts your future the most. Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo or others’ expectations of you. Set yourself up for fulfillment, not immediate gratification.

5 years ago? Study hard, work hard. Don’t waste your potential. Don’t dismiss opportunities because they don’t seem to align with your vision. 10 Years ago? Let myself know that I had depression and its something that can be fought, and to not let it consume you. I would have encouraged myself to work with technology more, even learn coding earlier.

5 yrs ago: 1. Drink coconut water. 2. Your hair is beautiful. 3. You are enough. 4. Capoeira will save your life. Train! 5. Your own pace, is the right pace.

10 years ago: 1. Work on being consistent. 2. Ask for help when you need it. 3. Try new things. 4. Let go of fear of your potential. 5. Vulnerability is ok, beautiful even.

5 Years ago was when Jack and Cat were born…. I would tell myself that everyone has their own “season” in life and it is okay to have kids early. Having kids doesn’t mean that I’m missing out in life, it means I get to figure out my priorities earlier in life. Don’t worry about what other people are doing with their life and know that my time will come. Just because someone started their career earlier, doesn’t mean they will succeed earlier. Stop comparing your life to others… you cannot compare luck and timing. Feeling upset and frustrated is not a sign of weakness… recognizing those feelings and talking about it is a sign of growth in personal development. You don’t need a traditional 9-5 job, there are so many ways to bring home income that is flexible for moms.

10 Years Ago I was in high school… Stop revolving your life around that boy! Be comfortable in your own skin and live your life. Work smart, not hard in school.

I would say “feel not sure after the actuarial interviews? That’s your heart is telling you this is not who you are! Honor your intuition and get the core of who you are, what makes you happy! What you do is a big part of your life, so spread your positive energy in things make you feel alive!” Also, find a coach from AC program lol

5 and 10 years ago I would definitely tell myself not to spend so much money on material things (you don’t need all that stuff!) and invest way more of it. Also, don’t care about what other people think – don’t let their opinions dictate your actions. Just follow your heart and what pulls at you.

My boyfriend said 5 years ago, his advice would also be save more money so u can pursue the things u really want and not be tied to your income.

10 years ago I would also advise myself to love myself more – work on my self love and respect myself more.

But really I would want my younger self to know it’s all going to be ok. You are exactly where u need to be and going thru what u need to be, to get to where you are going 🙂 so don’t sweat it so much and have fun!

I would’ve told myself to stay focused and that learning and development wasn’t over.
10 years ago I would say to work hard in school and focus on yourself and don’t put your BF first.
5 years ago: Don’t be afraid to walk into new challenges. If anything, you’ll have a larger set of experiences. 10 years ago: Be yourself. Aim to do things that speaks to your strengths, weaknesses and your interests.
I wrote..
10 years ago.
1. Read more non-fiction books such as How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
2. Read more financial related books such as Rich dad poor dad.
3. Learn how to say no
4. Stop caring so much about what other people think. Stop being a people pleaser.
5. Choose a major that you like! such as Psychology. Which is very useful for sales.
5 years ago
1. Go directly into a software sales position right away
2. Make a goal to read 36 books a year.
3. Focus on your routines, habits, listen to podcasts from Lewis Howes and Tim Ferriss.
4. Read all of the Tony Robbins books and internalize them.
5. Do not judge people ever.
These are some of the ones people told me today.
What about for you?

Dare to be

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can –

At all times, Dare to be!”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

I know sometimes life is hard. You didn’t get the job/opportunity you wanted. You didn’t make the Varsity or you just broke up after a long term relationship…

Every day there is a new slate and new chance to create something great. You have to get out of your own way. Sometimes I know you just don’t feel like getting up out of bed. This is why I recommend writing down your 25 goals(What I call an achievement list) for tomorrow list so that you can sleep peacefully and be excited for the day ahead of you!

What are some of the things you are procrastinating about today?

Some of my mine involving doing homework or feeling super sore after CrossFit and not wanting to get up from my calves hurt… We are all human but we are all capable of achieving so much in our limited time on Earth so why work a job that you hate? If you need help finding your true passion. Reach out to me. I would be more than happy to help unleash your true greatness.

This story of Davidson Hang (part 1)

I was born in Camden, NJ which was ranked one of the worst cities in America. Luckily, We moved out of there when I was younger into Cherry Hill which was a much nicer city. I grew up with modest means, living off on food stamps and welfare checks. My family still uses food stamps well my mother’s side of the family still does. No shame in that. I know people are embarrassed about admitting it but I am not anymore.

I am writing and showing my vulnerability hoping to inspire others to be more positive and to look at the bright side of things. It pains me to think that my father has left me and my younger two siblings when I was a freshman in high school. At the ripe age of 15, I was exposed to a lot. My parents constantly arguing and my father even went to jail and his brothers and sisters had to bail him out.

Growing up was tough, we moved around a lot. I did not have a lot of stability in my life which could explain why throughout the beginning stages of my life. There was a lot of instability in my relationships. I have moved around to 15 different places or more but who’s counting.

When I moved to California around Kindergarten, I didn’t have a close group of friends. I had a couple of friends but my parents were striving to be able to pay rent on time living paycheck to paycheck. My dad is a salesman and it is ironic that I told myself I would never want to be like my father after he just left us without telling us at the drop of a dime. My parents were never really officially married, they just lived together. It is kind of funny how my dad’s side of the family thinks he is a great guy and still til this day defends his honor. It is funny how unconditional love can really warp your perspective. But I am not mad at them, I do understand everything is entitled to their opinions.

I think it is important to try to be as objective as possible. Which is why I try to not be judgemental of others as of late and more importantly judge myself.

I was diagnosed with ADHD and although many Asians do not really believe it is a thing. It is a real thing, I struggle to sit still in the seat even when I get a haircut til this day I can barely sit still. In classrooms, I have to go to the bathroom or go get water from the water foundation every 20 minutes or less. I still have never sat through an entire lecture or class session without having to get outside for a “break”.

I do notice a lot of differences when taking Adderall. When I finally got life insurance, because the school gave us some life insurance for being a student I actually started doing well in school for about a semester. Once, I hit 21, they were forced to not give me life insurance anymore so I went back to my poor academic ways.

Although, I did take honor classes and were with really smart students. IB classes. Which is similar to AP if you guys do not know what it is. We were a magnet school, so I surrounded by people and was always or felt like one of the dumbest in my classes. I moved back to Cherry Hill, NJ in 5th grade and was actually voted most reserved in the yearbook by my classmates. It is funny to think that knowing myself now and how much of an open book I am.

I was extremely socially awkward and virtually spent my whole life playing video games and playing beanie babies with my sisters because I didn’t have any friends.

I went to middle school and somewhere I think halfway along 7th grade I decided to go outside my comfort zone and put myself out there. There I made a lot of “friends”, well I would say it was more acquaintances because I had a lot of friends but not necessarily a group of people that I consistently hung out with.

I found myself wanting to talk to everyone but nothing of real substance but we are all in middle school right? Who talks about philosophical things and the meaning of life at that young of an age?

Oh yeah, try adding an extreme case of asthma to the big list of problems I have growing up. I had an inhaler and everything. I actually was one of the slowest milers in elementary, I think I was last? I am not sure, but it wouldn’t surprise me.

I do notice I always have a ton of energy though, like with most kids with ADHD we all have a ton of energy so I started running more often. Slowly my asthma went away. I started doing cross country and track in 8th grade. I did develop a passion for having fun and just running and my mind was always racing was finally able to sleep at night just from being tired from track practice and cross country practices. Most nights I could not sleep and averaged about 5 hours of sleep every day. I still average 5 to 6 hours of sleep a night but I fall asleep in less than 5 seconds most nights. I used to just lie in bed for over an hour every day. It was really bad.

High school was totally different from the rest of my childhood. Now that we didn’t move every 6 months, I started having “friends”. I was super involved in school and joined the Asian Culture Club, spring track, winter track, bowling, cross country, newspaper- lions roar, and did relay for life. The list goes on, I started feeling more confident, more self-aware that I have the talents to become more likable and to make friends and just be more the true me. Still, I never had a steady group of friends, I had a ton of friends to hang out with not really a lot that I hung out for more than a couple of years.

College was an entirely different story as well, I joined Pi Delta Psi and met so many cool role models and alumnus and brothers who shared a common theme of always wanting to be better and were breaking Asian stereotypes. They were successful, rich, hard working, they were athletic. I wanted to be just like them, so I started lifting weights with them. I idolized the brothers and thought everything they did was amazing. Accomplishing so much being able to host events, starting their own organizations like Rutgers Cantonese Club and being on the board of all of the Asian clubs such as Chinese Student Organization and Taiwanese American Students Association.

Anyways, I started making a ton of new contacts road tripping everywhere. We went to Binghamton University, University of Riverside, University of Florida, University of Central Florida, Stony Brook, Cornell, Columbia, NYU, University of Maryland – College Park, basically everywhere where there was a chapter. This is the first time I actually had a close group of friends that I felt at peace with. But still, while being social chair and having to pay for college myself without any help from my parents.

I felt like life was unfair, why did all of these things happen to me? I was always comparing myself to others, my grades were horrible, how come everyone else had help with parents giving them money to be able to help them pay for tuition. Life was so unfair for me. I then realized it was my biggest advantage because I had so much more work experience than everyone else. My work ethic is so much stronger because I had to work 20-40 hours a week on the weekends and at night after school work to pay for my own expenses. It was a blessing in disguise.

Now, that I am older. I realized that everything does happen for a reason.  I am extremely blessed and fortunate to have a loving girlfriend who is faithful and loyal.  My relationships are getting better, I am learning to accept my family. It is not my mom’s fault she left as a refugee to escape Vietnam. She is so brave to have witnessed people dying in front of her hands during the war. She is still traumatized by this but has recently let me know about these moments which I am very grateful for her sharing.

It is not her fault that she is not educated and had no opportunity to go to college and did not even graduate from high school. It is not my father’s fault that he also did not have the opportunity to go to college and graduate from high school. Maybe my father leaving us had nothing to do with us but maybe it was a blessing to be able to afford me the foundation for my work ethic. Once you sell door to door Verizon Fios and selling Cutco knives, I truly believe you can do anything. Being in sales, you cannot blame anyone else but yourself. I am truly blessed to work for a huge company that cares about their employees with endless opportunities.

I am excited to be launching my own company called NOVA (Network of Visionary Asians) with 4 other business partners in April to make a huge difference and be able to inspire others and connect others like I continuously do on a daily basis. I have officially launched my life coaching business called Kaizen coaching to be able to help others find the greatness in oneself. It is funny how others hinted and saw the greatness in me but I never saw it myself. I still to this day do not think I am good at anything. I do think I have a natural tendency to be able to be curious and love to ask a billion questions which drives my ability to grow and learn on a daily basis. I love blogging and being vulnerable because I think we are all the same. I used to think wow, life is so unfair. Why does everyone have it better than I do, whereas now I reframe my mindset and perspective and stop comparing myself to everything else but start comparing myself to myself weeks ago, months ago, years ago. If I am not growing and putting myself out there then I will never be able to progress as a professional.

I thank you for reading this and spending the time getting to know me. I created my own mission statement where I will live my life by these words.

I, Davidson Hang provide value by being an excellent confidante and inspire motivation through myself by increasing everyone’s power base. I strive to never give up in the endeavors I am passionate about and I am the best example of resilience, confidence, and ethical leadership who always looks to make an insightful difference.  

Reach out to me if you are having a bad day or you just need someone to vent to. I promise, things will get better if you will just believe in yourself and stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

My phone number is 856 278 6168 if you want to text me or davidsonh87@gmail.com if you want to shoot me an email.

NPR’s: How I built this

My favorite episodes of How I Bult this

http://www.npr.org/podcasts/510313/how-i-built-this

  1. Atari and Chucke E. Cheese’s: Nolan Bushnell: 
  2. Airbnb: Joe Gebbia
  3. Zappos: Tony Hsieh
  4. Instagram: Kevin Systrom- really interesting to see how quickly it blew up and how it all started.
  1. Kate Spade: Kate & Andy Spade- Still very humble and down to earth.
  2. Gordon Segal: Crate & Barrel
  3. Honest Tea: Seth Goldman- Really interesting how he made semi sweet tea while all of the other teas were incredibly sweet.
  4. Serial Entrepreneur: Mark Cuban
  5. Samuel Adams: Jim Koch – He started the craft beer movement in America and made it cool again.
  6. John Zimmer- Lyft
  7. Music Mogul: L.A. Reid- I didn’t know anything about the music industry but it was insightful listening to this.
  8. Southwest Airlines: Herb Kelleher- How he disruptive the airline industry offering cheaper flights.
  9. Spanx- Sara Blakely- Always such an inspiring story that never gets old even the 3rd time hearing his story. The hustle and drive within her is so inspirational
  10. Clif Bar: Gary Erickson
  11. Angie’s List: Angie Hicks- What a brillant and smart creator.
  12. Warby Parker: Dave Gilboa & Neil Blumenthal – Really smart and amazing guys. Never gets old their story as well.

15. Virgin: Richard Branson – I didn’t know Virgin had a cola brand. Haha.

Daily journal entries

What do you guys typically write about?

I find myself typically recording my diet, my workouts, how I feel afterwards.

My goals and my achievement/ success list/ things to do.

Daily work related goals and any interesting experiences or regarding something new I learned from a mentor/ conference/seminar.

Nootropics

What are everyone’s thoughts on them?

From my experience, I am currently trying out.

  1. L-Theanine 200mg
  2. DMAE
  3. Onnit Shroom- Clean ATP by Onnit Labs
  4. Neovicta’s- Clarity stack
  5. BioScience Nutrition USA’s Brain Boost Nootropics (41 vitamins and DMAE)
  6. Zhou Nutrition’s -Neuro-Peak – DMAE, Rhodiola Rosea Extract, Bacopa Monnieri
  7. Alphabrain- Onnit labs

Have any of you tried any Nootropics what about your thoughts?