Networking 101

I wanted to write a useful blog post about my experience so far having attended over 200 networking events.

I would like to mention that I love networking events. It’s actually my favorite thing to do in the whole world which many people would say is strange but I do feel an awesome connection with people I meet at networking events.

These are my takeaways so far.

BNI(Business Networking International) helped me really be able to practice my elevator pitch. For some of you who is not familiar with BNI it a networking group that meets once a week every day from 7 am to around 8:30 am. I was a part of Chapter 16 in Manhattan. It has taught me really to be able to be comfortable with talking about your business and what makes you different. I have met so many interesting people attending all of the different BNI groups out there.

Networking is a long game. You can’t truly expect to see the benefits until much later on because of the simple trust factor. People need to have patience and understand that trust takes time to build. The key to making meaningful connections is just be yourself and always be taking the time to get to know the person and why they are at this networking event. With consistent follow-up and just being generous with everyone by helping others, you will start to see referrals come your way. They say “givers gain”. Adam grant’s Give and take was a really interesting book that talks about the most successful people in the world are the ones that service the most people. Oprah and many other billionaires owe their success to just being able to provide value to everyone. Whether it’s your cashier at your local supermarket to your doorman. You should treat everyone with the same amount of respect.

It interesting when I reach out to influencers and they actually give me time to help me out or give me advice. It’s fascinating how altruistic people can be in life, I mainly leverage Linkedin and other social media channels.

I am extremely grateful for Linkedin for allowing me to connect with so many people I would have never dreamed possible to speak to.

A good piece of advice I read online was that treat everyone’s business cards with respect and have one pocket for your cards and one pocket for other people’s cards.

I am also a part of another amazing networking group called Ivy which is the best networking group I have been a part of so far. Everyone has the common goal of wanting to meet other interesting people. They do a great job at selecting a wide variety of people that are genuine and have a cool story to tell.

I think curiosity plays a huge role in being an awesome networker. Not being afraid to ask for introductions to other people if you see they are connected to someone you would like to speak to.

There are people that are serial networkers like myself who spends a huge part of their lives networking. It is interesting to see in a huge city like NYC you still get people that seem to know everyone.

Being able to follow up is extremely important as well. Once you collect the business card’s you should send a follow-up requesting coffee with the person if you truly do want to get to know them better.

Be persistent. Depending on how high up the person is, you may have try multiple times but people will get back to you eventually.

Being able to an active listener and have great questions; always asking how can I help you? Like I have mentioned being of service to someone else is the greatest value added you can provide. People will remember that and it will come around to you one day.

I am truly blessed to have met so many interesting and ambitious people throughout my lifetime. I love going outside my comfort zone and really getting to know what people are passionate about and how people get to where they are today.

Let me know what you think are attributes of a good networker.

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Thursday nugget and motivational quote

Happy Thursday all!

“Simply ask yourself ‘what will happen today that is truly great’ or some similar question that fills you with an optimistic attitude towards the events you will encounter each day.”
Ilya Alexi
Attitude

Match your attitude with altitude. Every action or company begins with an idea. Your perseverance is crucial to determining if your dreams will ever come true.

Thursday is the best day to work harder than everyone else while everyone is sleeping that is how you make up ground. Do not underestimate the power of hunger. I would choose hunger over an MBA any day.

Delivering Happiness Top 10 books of all time!

Delivering Happiness: Tony’s (CEO of Zappos) book is full of amazing insights and tidbits into finding your true happiness.

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. “ -Buddha

“It is amazing what can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.” – H.S. Truman

“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” -Carlos Castaneda

These 3 quotes at the same of book summarize his mentality and his pursuit of happiness really well.

He links us to his happiness movement which is pretty cool. You should check out.

http://deliveringhappiness.com/keep-in-touch/

The last chapter in the book summarizes a lot of his main points well.

There are 3 types of happiness- The first one is pleasure which you can think of a rock star chasing the next high which is what most of us do. Buying the next car, buying the next pair of shoes, buying a bigger house thinking that it will make us happier.

The next level of happiness is passion- Which is the state of flow when you do things and time goes by really quickly. Also engagement, for instance, athletes describe this state as being in the zone.

This happens to me sometimes when I am reading a good book and before I know I finished the whole book in a day. Similar to when I reading this book and couldn’t put it down. It is often uninterrupted when you are at work being super productive.

The last level which is the most important is finding your purpose so being a part of something bigger than yourself.

Zappos’s example is creating an experience and creating the WOW factor which is basically just going above and beyond the call of duty. He gave an example of how one of his friends asked which pizza places are open at this time (it was really late) and the customer loyalty rep told him to wait and helped him out right away and was super sincere about everything.

The parallels between a great business and happiness are similar.

Purpose- passion- pleasure.

Seeking pleasure is what we do when we get drunk or find hook ups, or buying a nice outfit etc. It is an externally driven world.

Business equivalent is seeking profits.

Passion is the 2nd level for both.

Purpose is the highest level for both.

He gives us an exercise to do.

What are your values?

What are you passionate about?

What inspires you?

What is your goal in life?

What are your company values?

What is your company’s higher purpose?

What is your higher purpose?

I love how Tony is so vulnerable in this book even though he is a billionaire.

He is just so relatable more so than almost anyone I have ever read about.

Some of the other takeaways from the book is – defying conventional wisdom. He basically did what everyone else neglects to do. Invest the most energy and time into your customer service department. Most companies dread spending money on customer service and pay their customer service employees the least amount of money. He does the opposite and creates a whole company based on giving the customer the ultimate WOW experience.

Truly innovative. Tony was always very ambitious and credited his work ethic from having super strict Asian parents. He was forced to go to Harvard because his parents said it was great for bragging rights to compare to other Asian parents that they lived near in the bay area. He was very entrepreneurial even in middle school and high school. He created his own business and all he cared about was money when he was a young child. He was super money hungry that way he described when he first received his first check and when he started his own businesses and became very successful from it. His parents actually wanted to do more something more practical than computer science.

He just has a passion for learning and is open minded about everything. He is not afraid of judgment you can tell by him pouring out his heart by still open and honest about everything. Admitting all of his mistakes and thought process for every decision he makes. The fear of bankruptcy and going out of business time and time again.

Do not get it wrong, he has many many failures. I think many of us read that and say sure…. But we don’t truly understand the significance of it. Normal people think of failures it’s like maybe once in awhile when we will have failures but he had so many failures it is even hard to comprehend sometimes unless you are Mark Cuban or a serial entrepreneur.

He makes a lot of comparison with poker to business. Some of his analogies are: Appearing weak when strong and appearing strong when weak. Being in it for the long term game and being flexible and most importantly the table that you sit at- he talks about being on table with a lot of poker chips is tired people vs professionals with a small stack. His analogy is that the table represents your market and when he was just in the shoe market. His options were limited but by opening it up to accessories and so much more. His options grew exponentially.

He talks about just having fun in everything in life. Do not take anything so serious, it is just not worth your time and energy to get bogged down when your first 100 businesses do not work out. The earthworm farm story was memorable because he was talking about his first business venture at the age of 6 was he wanted to grow earthworms because he heard they multiplied when cut in half so he put a wire at the end of his farm but that did not work out and they ended up all escaping.

“To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.” – Soren Kierkegaard

“Be humble: “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few.” -Shunryu Suzuki.

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.” -Jon Wabat- Zian

These are questions to ask yourself in your are in a business or in a management level position:

Ask yourself: How do you plan and prepare for change? Do you view new challenges optimistically? Do you encourage and drive change? How do you encourage more change to be driven from the bottom up?

Are you empowering your direct reports to drive change?

Another common theme I have noticed is that Tony is an amazing story teller. He is extremely funny and witty which makes the stories that much more memorable. You can’t help but root for the guy.

Ask yourself: How do you encourage more teamwork?

How do you encourage more people to take initiative? How do you encourage more people to take ownership? What can you do with your team members so that you feel both like a family and a team? How can build stronger relationships with your team members both inside and outside the office? Do you instill a sense of team and family not just within your department, but across the entire company? Do you exemplify a positive team spirit?

Doing more with less- Being scrappy is extremely important as well.

Ask yourself: How can you do what you’re doing more efficiently? How can your department become more efficient? How can the company as a whole become more efficient? How can you personally help the company become more efficient?

The TLDR version is that life is too short to worry about what others think of you.

Find your passion and ask why? If you keep asking why to your response you will eventually get happiness is the reason why you do the things you do.


Most people think of happiness is having materialistic things but he argues that it doesn’t matter at all. True happiness revolves around connectedness, something greater than your yourself, making a difference and paying it forward.

Morning routines- What does your routine look like?

What does your morning routine look like? I typically from Monday to Friday will wake up at 5:25 am. I will meditate for 10 minutes on Headspace. Go to CrossFit from 6 am to 7 am. I will typically boil eggs and eat honey flavored greek yogurt and then listen to my podcast for the 30-minute commute. After work, I will typically go to on networking event. I will try to blog or read an interesting article or clear out my inbox. Do my phone calls, and rinse repeat. I will usually try to spend an hour with my girlfriend and be present with her.

On the weekends I typically wake up around 8 am and I will pretty much try to finish a book over the weekend usually. Sometimes, I will go for a run. Catch up with family and write blog posts.

How important do you stress carving out a routine? How many days do you think it takes to create a habit? Many books say it takes around 68 days to create a habit.

I often think people always say there is not enough time in a day but I truly think that you have a consistent routine you can accomplish much more than spending energy trying to figure out what to do next.

My takeaways from having a consistent routine are that there is less time spent trying to figure out what to do and more time actually doing the things you want to do.

 

Main takeaways from Ray Kroc’s book: Grinding It out- The making of McDonald’s The personal story behind founder Ray Kroc’s Amazing Success.

The main thing I took from this was that he was the hardest worker in his time.

He owned the San Diego Padres baseball team as well after he retired which is amazing for someone who grew up very modestly! 

He started off his career as a milkshake mixer salesman for Prince Castle. He was amazingly competitive very charismatic and personable.

He has an extremely high emotional intelligence and empathy. He truly believed in his employees.

He met the McDonald brothers were visiting the San Bernardino back in 1955. He saw how much business they were getting and the rave reviews of the people that were waiting in line at McDonald’s.

He really changed the franchising system model. He had an amazing vision and hired the best talent. He has an amazing gut feeling for everyone that he hires for them to become successful and great leaders.

I would highly recommend this book for anyone looking to start their own business or is interested in starting a franchise.

His life was certainly not easy. I really found the way he talked about his romantic life very interesting. He was head over heels over a lady that was previously married but that didn’t stop him from announcing his true love for her. The way he talked about how incomplete his life was without her was so fascinating to me!

It was like even though he was a multi-millionaire, he did not stop thinking about her and the way he felt when he saw her. The way he described his love was so personal and relatable. 

Kroc was 52 when he started franchising the McDonalds business which goes to show that everything you do in life leads you up to a point where you can be successful. All of the experiences and relationships that he has created while being a rockstar sales manager and leader led him to be able to manage the people he did and to inspire his employees.

He also attests much of his success to the people under him. I have noticed a common trend amongst great leaders that they always talk about the people under them as the reason for their success.

The book title is perfectly suited for his life. His life was not easy, there were so many times where he thought it would all be over but he managed to tough it out and was able to escape bankruptcy and was able to invest more energy and time into his business.

Kroc stuck me as such a typical salesman not in a bad sense but the way he handled and was able to connect with you. You just really respected his hustle and drive. The moment where he took a risk and move to Florida to try new ventures. It was just a matter of time until he struck gold. You just wanted to root for him the whole way, because he just had such a positive outlook on life.

This is an inspirational book for anyone that is thinking that people get lucky. True, sometimes people do get lucky but I truly think that all of your misfortunes happen for a reason and with Kroc all of his failures lead him to McDonald’s.

This book kind of reminded me of the founder of Nike- Shoe Dog- Phil Knight just both of their abilities to work beyond imaginably possible. It was all of they can think about and their romantic relationships have suffered because of that. Phil Knight did a better job at being able to find someone who can truly support him and his business but Kroc’s first wife had a hard time accepting his trade off for his business for the lack of time and energy he spent with his wife.

 

Takeaways from the cofounder of Microsoft, owner of the Seahawks and Trailblazers- Paul Allen- Idea Man

My main takeaways is that holy crap! This man has lived a super important life. I can’t believe I have never really heard of him until stumbling upon this gem from Stig and Preston on the Investors Podcast which if you haven’t listened to yet. You totally should. I will link it at the bottom of this post.

First of all, the man is a genius and is incredibly humble. He has been a self-made billionaire for most of his life and still thinks there is so much left to accomplish.

Anyone that has a passion or curiosity towards life, in general, should read this book. I do not know one person that would not benefit from reading this book.

I will just list his main accomplishments below.

  • Cofounded Microsoft with Bill Gates- in August of 2016, he was the 40th richest world in the world with an estimated net worth of $18.6 billion.
  • He owns the Seattle Seahawks and the Portland Trail Blazers. -He was a player’s owner and really spent the time to get to know his players and everyone on his team loved the way he treated them.

Once his dad passed away he really wanted to invest and save the Seahawks from moving to a different city because they were short on funding. His dad also used to take him to University of Washington football games as a young child so it was a way to honor his dad but became one of his many passions.

  • He founded the Allen Institute for Brain Science.- the type of work he is doing for society and in the name of science is just so amazing and inspiring!
  • Institute for Artificial Intelligence- He does right a lot about the challenges of Artificial Intelligence is does acknowledge we need to understand our own brain first before can truly master AI.

He grew up middle class but did extremely well in school and got into a highly competitive private school where he met Bill Gates.

This taught me the importance of having a really solid network because even though Bill Gates was a lot richer than Paul Allen was as a young child. The meeting during their younger days was from the initial contact of being in the computer science club.

His passion, curiosity and relentless amount of hard work. While everyone else told him to quit computer science, his family I mean basically they were told that business and being a lawyer were much more practical majors and career paths. Computer science being relatively new back when he started and not as respected.

Paul Allen is the ultimate idea man. He is extremely creative and pursues a passion for music also invested in Ticketmaster to acquire 80% of Ticketmaster.

Despite the impressive resume, I do get the feeling that legacy is what is extremely important to him. Being able to be remembered. He created a scholarship fund when he dad died and his dad was the master librarian so he said he was fortunate to be the son of the head of librarians which gave him a passion and the resources to be so knowledgeable about what is going on in the world of computer science. He said that his dad gave him the best advice in the world which is to have a job you love and he certainly lived his life that way. He said in a way, being so interested in computer science most of his early career/ life during those times were very one dimensional. He poured so much of his time and energy into it that he was not able to do everything else he was passionate about such as music and playing the guitar.

His natural curiosity for everything in life could not be understated. The man always challenged conventional thinking and he invested in SETI– Search for Extraterrestrial Intelligence when the company was at risk of going down under.

He talks about the point of singularity which is a really interesting topic now that we started to see AI change our ways and the way we do things. It is hard to go anywhere and not see AI start to pop up as main discussion topics.

He loves making a difference in people’s lives. It is funny people always ask him how he thinks money has changed his life but he says that it really doesn’t. It just gives him more influence over the things he loves in life. Like after growing through some close calls where he almost died. He then invests in learning more about how to cure Dementia and other diseases. Because his mother has a severe case of Dementia and Alzheimer’s.

It is interesting to see someone who is so bold and rich but still has the same level of insecurities that we do as you and I. I saw a lot of myself in Paul Allen being a dreamer. His advice is that research and development are important but you need a truly fearless leader such as Bill Gates to be able to execute. That is actually one of the biggest takeaways from this book.

He gives examples of how Bill Gates used to be the biggest risk taker ever and would risk his life speeding everywhere. It was his escape from working 80-100 hours a week without sleep. Bill gates even had to hire the best traffic attorney in the country to help him with the fact that he was getting so many speeding tickets.

I found it interesting how he portrayed Bill as a ruthless negotiator and about how he pushed everyone to their limits mentally and physically. That type of leadership is what made Microsoft so successful because of the fact that Bill would challenge you for hours and days. That type of accountability made the company so successful.

Another consistent topic was that timing is everything. He mentioned that during the timeframe of where he went to school and how the computer programmers were at the time. It was an opportune moment, if he was born 5 years later then he would have missed the boat and 5 years before, everything is so new he wouldn’t have the opportunity to do everything that he did.

He does mention that yes timing and luck is important but he did bust his ass and took bold risks to get to where he is.

Money is not everything, but it does give you a vehicle to influence potentially millions of people. He has invested billionaires into research, charities, non-profits. When he became the youngest NBA owner, he went through the emotional rollercoaster of the draft and going to the playoffs, etc. I loved his stories about how he took a big risk with the Seahawks but he is excited to see how they are able to compete with big money markets.

He also mentioned that if he was more patience and held onto his AOL stocks, he would have made 40 billion dollars!!!!! More money than he has made from all of the Microsoft stocks. That is such a crazy concept just because is still one the richest men in the world.

Another reflective comment he keeps talking about is it doesn’t matter if you have the coolest idea in the world, there needs to be a market for it. That is why being a dreamer is important to a certain extent but you still need a market because his research innovation lab was his biggest wasted investments, because on paper it was really good and there were groundbreaking inventions but none of it amounted to everything because they were poorly executed and the market thought it was too early for wide adoption.

Surround yourself with great people –he surrounded himself with People like Bill Gates, Steve Ballmer, Richard Branson, and I mean most of all of the people he hired were amazing, hard working people. He does realize the importance of your network. Even though Bill dropped out of Harvard he did meet a ton of very successful people that he hired that ended up growing his company to one of the biggest companies in the world today such as Ballmer and the guys who invented many other important Microsoft milestones and products.

His appreciation for the finer things in life is evident.

Creating a museum for Jimi Hendrix because he was such a fan and loved playing the guitar. The way he describes music is simply amazing. It truly gave me a new profound appreciation for the electric guitar.

I thought it was interesting that when he first met Michael Jordan in the playoffs he said the only time he has ever met someone with that level of confidence and leadership was Bill Gates. I just thought it was interesting because most people would never compare Bill Gates to Michael Jordan but it does make sense now because no one else is willing to work as hard as them. The vision that both MJ and Gates have was evident from day one.

Bill Gates at the young age of being in 8th grade knew that he was going to be Fortune 100 CEO and the stories that Paul Allen had of Bill being so fearless cold calling companies at the age of 18 is amazing pitching them his ideas before anything was even developed.

He also talked about the importance of diversifying your investments. One of his worst investments was his billions of dollars into Charter Communications. He felt like the telecom industry is moving at a mule’s pace for innovation and realized that put way too much energy time into that could be been diversified in other ventures he was more passionate about.

I hope you guys got something out of this read. If you guys are looking to read more and if you want to recommend a cool book similar to this book. Let me know I am excited to continue on my 1000 books journey…

https://www.theinvestorspodcast.com/paul-allen-idea-man/

How a kid with severe asthma toughed it out and is now into Spartan races and other crazy things…

Growing up I was always last of my class at the mile. I remember in 5th grade I was literally the last kid to finish. It was so embarrassing and I really thought I would never been able to do anything about it.

I used an inhaler. Picture a really short Asian kid with thick glasses and a bowl haircut and was voted most reserved of my class in the yearbook.

In middle school I was still shy and only until around 7th grade I started opening up and trying new things.

I started doing cross country in 8th grade. I always had a lot of energy because of my diagnosed ADHD. They said when your parents smoke cigarettes you have a much higher chance of developing ADHD compared to kids that do not have parents that smoke.

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Anyways, I was always pretty bad at track and cross country. I mean compared to normal people I was good. I started placing near the top of my gym class in the mile but still haven’t broken a 6-minute mile more than once.

I was pretty proud of myself, yay I beat a bunch of people that don’t run every day for 5-7 miles. People always thought us Cross Country people were crazy like why would you run for fun? But I always thought it was a meditative way to just have a good time with friends and didn’t think too much of it.

I remember the football players always made fun of us because most cross country people were skinny and they were always intimidating.

My winter track, spring track, and cross country was nothing specular..I made a lot friends but I was never good enough to make it very far like to states or sectionals or anything.

I definitely enjoyed every minute of it. Bonding, making friends and traveling to different schools/states to compete. I distinctly remember going to Winslow whose track team was pretty much 80% black and 20% Spanish. They were rooting for me and called me Jin. (He is an Asian rapper). That was cool, because I always felt like minorities always supported me and we all supported each other.

When I was in college, I started being more active doing more weight lifting and was exposed to Asians who were actually really athletic and loved to work out a lot. It introduced me to a whole new world. It was awesome to see Pi Delta Psi break through stereotypes and brothers that played varsity football in high school and received scholarships in sports. That was something truly amazing to me.

Endurance sports were my thing, I ended up doing a half marathon without training for it. It really pushed my mental limits because the furthest I had run before that ever was probably 7 or 8 miles so 13.1 miles was very painful or at least the recovery aspect of it. I ended up doing a century which is 100+ miles bike race with a really cheap Walmart bike. That was one of my proudest achievements because I still remember being the last kid in school at the mile. I will probably do more centuries in the future because I actually really like biking and found it relaxing and calming.

I got into Spartan races when it was really popular and I will never forget the hardest race of my life. In Vermont Mt. Killington, it was so crazy doing a 12-hour obstacle race. It was the toughest and most mentally draining event I had ever done in my life. But also one of the most fun and I would love to do it again if other people are interested in doing it with me. I was much lighter back then so I would be able to do most of the obstacles now being almost 15 lbs of muscle heavily.

I have recently started on my CrossFit journey. It’s only been a little been a little over 5 months but I love it and I think I have found my calling. This is the first time where I just feel such accomplishment and something that really challenges and can match my energy level.

People always say I have the most energy they have ever seen in a person. For someone who averages less than 6 hours of sleep a day I would say that is probably true. I still haven’t met many people who can match my energy level in my life.

I am excited to do the JP Morgan corporate challenge with my company at Experian and I am excited to run the Rutgers Half Marathon coming up in less than 10 days. I still haven’t trained for it but I am excited to push my mental capacity to see how well I can do. My strategy is usually hustle and push the last 5 miles really strong.

Anyone looking to try something new physically feel free to reach out to me. I would love to hear about your journey. I am excited because for the first time in my life I do not view myself as a weak Asian male. I find a lot of confidence in my ability to grow getting stronger physically and mentally every day in CrossFit and push my boundaries at one of the most hard core crossfit gyms in the nation at Solace NY.

Let me know if you guy want to come for a trial day. I would love to have more of my friends come join me on this amazing journey.

As I reflect on the days where I was so weak and self-conscious of never being able to gain weight. I have no trouble gaining weight now in a good way but I love it because I know it’s giving me the confidence I need to succeed in business and this amazing journey called life.

 

 

Legacy, what does it mean to you?

Your legacy what does that mean to you?

Why are put on Earth for? Have you found your calling? What gives you the motivation to go on and work 40+ hours a week.

What gives your life meaning?

The topic of death scares a lot of people. I was listening to a ted talk about how someone went straight to serious topics and skipped all of the small talk.

It was interesting because immediately she brought some topics that made people uncomfortable. I know a lot of you reading this are probably thinking man… it is way too early to reading about something so serious but I truly think that if you don’t think of death as a taboo topic then there could be a lot of benefits to come from this.

If you plan for the future and actually save up money and do all of your wills, deeds, etc then you do not have to burden everything else with the funeral costs etc.

But the real purpose of this blog post is really just to evaluate and think is everything I am doing right now what I want to leave for my future, my kids, my family etc.?

I think many of us in life are going about life really automatic just doing things because we have to and not because we actually want to.

I know so many people that dread going to work every day and especially dread Mondays. I actually love Mondays because I love going to work and being able to learn something new or challenging myself to go outside my comfort zone.

Yes, it is much more comfortable watching tv or eating snacks. Or just hanging out with friends talking about how great the good ole days were back in college.

I am not saying there is anything bad about hanging out with your friends or watching TV but really if you evaluate your life and if you were to pass away tomorrow. Would you be happy with the life you lived so far?

Would you want to impact more people? Do things that you were afraid to do but never got the “chance” to?

We live in a world of opportunities. We live in America, there are stories about people becoming millionaires every day or creating their own company or people quitting corporate America to do something that gives them meaning. I am not saying you have to do something dramatic and quit your job but I would dig deeper and think about what you are doing on your weekends and what gives you a sense of purpose.

Just food for thought…

I am blessed to be giving the opportunity to hear people stories every day when networking. I really find it fascinating that we are all the same but yet people think so differently.

I find myself being curious about life and everything. About how people think about what makes people tick.

It is truly interesting to see how some of us grew up so similarly but inspire to do different things, challenges, and goals.

I am excited to launch my own company to empower and help Asian Americans connect to others and help people find mentorship opportunities. Reach out to me if you want to learn more or be a part of a something great! We are looking for Nova associates.

But to answer my original question. If I were to die tomorrow. I would be fully fulfilled with the life I have lived so far. I lived my life with no regrets. Of course, I have made some mistakes. We all have but I know that I’ve always worked hard and gave it my all/ I was always true to myself and was not afraid to let my true colors show.

I have connected so many people and helped so many people negotiate a higher salary or helped people take the plunge and apply for a new opportunity when they were unsure of themselves.

I love the type of work that I do now. When I found out there was a name for this type of role I jumped at the opportunity to make a difference and to help people see something in themselves that nobody else might have seen.

Sure, life is never perfect but I truly think everything happens for a reason. It is just a matter of reframing your mindset to look at every obstacle as an opportunity.

My life is far from perfect but at least I know I am not afraid to try something new or afraid to approach someone to ask for help.

I am blessed to have everyone here be so supportive of me and my story. I hope to impact millions of people with one day.  The start is here right now! Why wait until someone gives you permission to do something?

Not too long ago… I was I always asking others what should I do or what do you think I am good at?

I should proud of myself for taking risks and being able to influence others for positive change. Yeah, it might be uncomfortable to do things that require you getting outside your comfort zone.

My troubled background has been a blessing in disguise to give me a different perspective and to be able to experience such spectrums of growing up poor in Camden, NJ to living in NYC – the greatest city in the world in the land of opportunity.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this.

I really hope it sparks some interest in digging deeper and designing a life that you love. Shoot me a text sometime if you want to catch up or just talk anything that you are interested in pursuing.

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The Start-Up of You: Reid Hoffman

Chapter 2: These were my main takeaways from this book. This was actually one of my top 10 books for sure because it had really good actionable items and valuable insights/advice/tips.

These were my main takeaways from this book. This was actually one of my top 10 books for sure because it had really good actionable items and valuable insights/advice/tips.

  1. Identify three people who are striving toward aspirations similar to your own. Use them as benchmarks. How did they get to where they are?
  2. Write down your key assets in the context of a market reality.

Ex: For me, I know I am great at networking and connecting people to other people whom they want to meet. I should leverage that in order to build good karma amongst my network.

In the next month: Review your calendar, journals, and old emails and get a sense for how you spent your last six Saturdays. What do you do when you have nothing urgent to do? How you spend your free time may reveal your true interests and aspirations; compare them to what you say your aspirations are.

  • Think about how you are currently adding value at work. If you stopped going to the office suddenly, what would not get done? Think about the things people frequently compliment you on- those may be your strengths.

Network Intelligence: Meet with three trusted connections and ask them what they see as your greatest strengths. If they had come to you for help or advice on one topic, what would it be?

For me, it is always resume or job related/salary negotiations advice.

Chapter 3: Prioritize learning – Learning does not stop when you graduate from college or even graduate school.

Learn by doing… You can read all you want but the best way to learn is by doing.

  • Schedule a coffee meeting with someone who used to work in your professional niche who pivoted to a new a career plan. How did he or she make the shift? Why? Was it a good move? What were signs that the time was right?
  • Make a plan to develop more transferable skills by simply pledging to sign up for a course or conference or by pledging to spend one hour each self-learning.
  • Reserve a personal domain name. (yourname.com)
  • Reach out to five people who work in adjacent niches and ask them to coffee. Keep up these relationships over time so you an access diverse information.

Chapter 4 notes:

  • Build genuine relationships. The one that throws out business cards to every person without actually getting to them know is not going to make it far. It is much better to have valuable relationships rather than quantity.
  • Be a bridge and a connector. It will serve you in the long run.
  • Look at your calendar for the six past months and identify the five people you spend the most time with- are you happy with the influence those five people are having on you?
  • Make two useful introductions to your contacts who don’t know each other.
  • Keep in touch with your ten most valuable connections regularly without having to ask them for a favor or anything.
  • Make an interesting people fund used for coffee and networking purposes. This will serve you well.

Chapter 5 notes:

Be like Benjamin Franklin and create your own mastermind group.

Hustle, hustle, hustle. Hustling will never be underrated. There is almost no better strategy in business other than hustling.

  • Ask the most curious person you know out to lunch and try to get infected by their sense of awe.
  • Take a coworker in a different department out for lunch or attend a seminar in a different but related field.
  • Opportunities are attached to people. Identify the people in your network who always seem to have their hands in interesting pots. Try to understand what makes them hubs of opportunity and resolve to meet more people with those characteristics.

Chapter 6 notes:

Always have a backup plan because you really don’t know. Just because you work for a huge corporate company, environments and markets are unpredictable you should always have a backup plan even if you work for a government agency.

Chapter 7 notes:

  • Ask good questions.
  • Leverage domain experts
  • Post interesting questions to your Linkedin network, Twitter and Facebook.
  • Schedule three lunch dates to one with a person a few rungs ahead of you in your industry; one with a person with an old friend you haven’t seen in awhile; and one with a person from an adjacent industry whose career you admire.
  • Become a go-to person for other people in your network on certain topics. Make known to your connections your interests and skill by writing blog posts and emails, or set up discussion groups.

1000 books journey

My goal is to finish 1000 books. I will post updates and takeaways from these books.

Let me know what you all think.

Open to a book sharing club or any suggestions for must needs that you think would change my life.

My favorites are highlighted in bold.

  1. Tony Hsieh- Delivering Happiness: A path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose
  2. Pre:The Story of American’s Greatest Running Legend, Steve Prefontaine- Tom Jordan
  3. The Start- Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career- Reid Hoffman
  4. Rework- Jason Fried (Recommended by Mark Cuban)
  5. Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow- Yuval Noah Harari
  6. Idea Man: A memoir by the Cofounder of Microsoft -Paul Allen
  7. Ray Kroc- Grinding it Out: The Making of McDonald’s
  8. Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills. You Need to Live an Authentic Life- Susan Campbell, Ph.D.
  9. Michael Lewis- Boomerang: Travels in the New Third World
  10. Phil Knight- Shoe Dog: A Memoir by the creator of Nike
  11. The Challenger Sale: Taking Control of the Customer Conversation- Matthew Dixon
  12. Strategic Management and Business Policy: Globalization, Innovation and Sustainability- Thomas Wheelan
  13. Operations Management: Processes and Supply Chains- Lee J. Krajewski
  14. The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living- Ryan Holiday
  15. Peter Thiel- Zero To One: Notes on Startups, or How to Build the Future
  16. Adam M. Grant- Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success
  17. Ego Is the Enemy- Ryan Holiday
  18. The First Tycoon: The Epic Life of Cornelius Vanderbilt- T.J. Stiles
  19. Transform Your Life: 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity- Chris Lee
  20. Tony Robbins: Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbook
  21. The Intelligent Investor. The Definitive Book on Value Investing. A Book of Practical Counsel- Benjamin Graham – recommended by Warren Buffet
  22. Titan: The Life of John. D. Rockefeller- Ron Chernon
  23. Tesla: Inventor of the Electrical Age- Bernand W. Carlson- Recommended by Elon Musk
  24. Benjamin Franklin: An American Life- Walter Isaacson – Top 5 books of all time. (Also recommended by Elon Musk)
  25. Breakpoint: Why the Web will implode, Search will be Obsolete, and Everything Else you Need to Know about Technology is in your Brain- Jeff Stibel
  26. Michael Lewis- The Undoing Project: A Friendship That Changed Our Minds.
  27. Flash Boys: A Wall Street Revolt- Michael Lewis
  28. The New New Thing: A Silicon Valley Story- Michael Lewis
  29. The Money Culture; Michael Lewis
  30. Grant Cardone- Be Obsessed or Be Average (sales related)
  31. Tony Robbins- Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement
  32. Tony Robbins- Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
  33. Tony Robbins- MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom. (Highly recommended for everyone. Top 5 books)
  34. Essentials of Business Statistics- Bruce Bowerman
  35. Management Information Systems: Managing the Digital Firm- Kenneth Laudon
  36. Introduction to Counseling: An Art and Science Perspective- Michael Nystul
  37. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us:Daniel Pink
  38. Organizational Behavior- Steven McShane
  39. Strategic Marketing- David Cravens
  40. Managing Human Resources- Susan E. Jackson
  41. Management- Stephen. P. Robbins
  42.  The Legal Environment of Business: Text and Cases: Ethical,  Regulatory, Global and Corporate Issues- Frank B. Cross
  43. Career Anchors: The Changing Nature of Careers Self Assessment- Egdar H. Schein
  44. Business and Society: Ethics and Stakeholder Management- Archie B. Carroll
  45. Working with Emotional Intelligence- Daniel Goleman
  46. Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for getting out of your own way. Rick Carson
  47. The E-Myth Revisited: Why most small businesses don’t work and what to do about it. Michael E Gerber
  48. Get Cleints Now! (TM): A 28- day marketing program for professionals, consultants, and coaches
  49. Selling the Invisible: A Field guide to modern marketing
  50. Creating competitive advantage: give customers a reason to choose you over your competitors- Jaynie. L. Smith
  51. Coach anyone about anything: How to help people succeed in business and life: Germaine Porche
  52. Creating Sales Velocity- Matthew Ferry
  53. The Rosie Project: A novel- Graeme Simsion
  54. The Rosie Effect- A novel- Graeme Simsion

What are your thoughts on any of these books that you have read or the main takeaways?

I am always open to suggestions for books that you think I would like. Thanks all!